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How to Come to Terms With Needing Help

How to Come to Terms With Needing Help

Most people today shun the thought of asking for help, as they have been taught to be as self-sufficient as possible. There are a few reasons for this. Households with working parents often expect their children to grow up quickly since there simply isn’t time after long hours at work to care for every small need. Men are expected to become pillars of the community. Women are expected to sacrifice for the sake of others and support them. Media is full of the myth of the one-person powerhouse that somehow manages to save the day by itself.

It’s an immense amount of pressure to put on people to succeed on their own…and it ends up harming our society in the long run. Human beings are social creatures, and we, by design, are meant to help each other in a group. Part of why we were so successful as a species is because we learned how to divide tasks to lighten the group workload. With the onset of modern society, we are often expected to ‘leave the nest’ and seek out our lives on our own.

Sadly enough, this leads to many lonely people who often struggle with feelings of isolation. It’s even worse when you have a problem and are somehow expected to deal with it on your own. Mental health disorders, in particular, are something that cannot be treated by oneself. However, it means admitting to yourself that you need help, which is a struggle for many Americans.

Asking For Help Is Not a Sign of Weakness

It’s vitally important to remember that nobody can do everything by themselves. You will need to ask for help eventually, and you may be surprised to learn that you are already doing so without realizing it. If you go to a doctor for a check-up or a medical procedure, you are asking for and receiving help for a problem you can’t fix on your own. Of course, you may learn how to do simple first aid procedures, but an average citizen is not expected to know how to perform open heart surgery. 

Simply not knowing how to do something is not a weakness. This is especially true for something as complicated and nuanced as a mental health disorder. Facing your fears is a mark of bravery, so asking for help should be considered just as admirable. Asking for help recognizes that others have the skills that you don’t, and that is a mark of maturity. 

Learn to Be Okay With Asking for Help

By far, the most important thing you can do is learn that it’s okay to ask for and get help. Letting go of toxic ideals is difficult, but it’s important to understand that this is about you. It is not selfish to want to be happy and healthy. You are not taking up someone’s time and energy when you ask professionals for help. This is their job, and nobody enters the mental health field if they aren’t already passionate about helping others. 

You can begin to make yourself more comfortable in asking for help by starting small. For example, you may ask someone if it’s okay to vent to them for a little bit or to get a hug. You can ask if someone would like to hang out for a little while. These are unspoken ways of asking for help, which will allow you to work your way up to confronting the problem you have. 

The people you love are great for giving reassurance and helping manage symptoms. Remember that ordinary people cannot help treat a mental health disorder. Things like addiction and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) require a mental health professional and a treatment plan to achieve recovery. 

Knowing that you may need to undergo treatment is scary. A trick to help is to visualize how much better your life will be afterward. Focus on how happy you will be and how much better you will feel. Then understand that all you need to do to get this is to reach out and ask for help.

Ways to Reach Out for Help

There are many ways for someone to get help for their mental health disorder, but it all starts with contacting a mental health professional. You can search online for local treatment centers close to your home. Accredited treatment centers will have their licensing information on their website along with contact information. This allows you to cross-reference their licensing information to be sure you are contacting a legitimate establishment.

Those that have anxiety problems, especially phone anxiety, can still reach out for help in ways that make them comfortable. Of course, people can call by the phone number listed, but this isn’t viable for everyone. Most treatment centers have email addresses and built-in messaging apps to easily reach someone without needing to physically speak. With the onset of COVID-19, offices are careful about in-person conversations, but it can happen with a little preparation beforehand. 

Someone may also appoint an advocate to help them reach out for help. This should be someone you trust, but be aware that some information you will have to provide yourself due to the sensitivity of it. Such information includes your social security number and birthday. 

Remember that those that work in the mental health field know what you are going through and how scared you may feel. Professionals will do their absolute best to make you as comfortable as possible. They are not here to judge or ridicule you; they are here to help you. Remember that, and you will always have a way to get help should you ever need it.

We are often raised with the idea that it’s somehow selfish and weak to ask for help when we need it. This is a toxic way to think and harms our society as a whole. Everyone deserves to be helped when they need it, especially if they are struggling with a mental health disorder. Here at Acera Health in Costa Mesa, California, you can trust that we will treat you with the respect and care you deserve. Nobody can do everything by themselves, so let us help you carry your burdens while you heal. If you or someone you love is living with a mental health disorder and would like help, call (949) 647-4090 today.


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